WILL YOU TAKE THE BUS?

Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.

Quote by Oprah Winfrey

REFLECTION:

  • Do you have someone in your life who will take the bus with you?
  • If yes, thank them…
  • If no, are you willing to be with you on that bus ride?
  • Have you been tolerating (settling for) only people who want to ride in the limo?  
  • What changes do you need to make?

HARSH FEEDBACK

Harsh Feedback   – It often comes from one of two kinds of people:  People who give themselves feedback in the same heartless tone.  They don’t hesitate to brutally lash out, because that’s the noise they often hear inside.  And folks who honestly believe that their work is flawless.  They can’t understand how anyone else can fail to measure up, because they never seem to.  Of course, each group has a significant (though different) problem.  In fact, now that they’re spreading their harshness with others, they have two problems.  When in doubt, look for the fear.

FROM: Seth Godin’s Daily Blog

REFLECTION:

  • When offering feedback how do you treat others? Are you harsh?  Do you expect perfection?
  • When receiving toxic feedback can you step back and explore if fear is the root cause?
  • How does that alter the feedback?

CARING FOR OURSELVES…

When feeling badly about ourselves, we often try on other skins rather than understand and care for our own.  How much time is spent comparing ourselves to others, dead or alive?  When wounded and troubled, we sometimes feel compelled to puff ourselves up.  For in our pain, it seems to make sense that if we were larger, we would be harder to miss.  If we were larger, we’d have a better chance of being loved.  It is not surprising then that others need to be made smaller so we can maintain our illusion of seeming bigger than our pain.  But being human, we are often troubled and blocked by insecurity and a feeling of unworthiness.  The truth is the corrective story of how we return to who we are and compassion is the never ending story of how we embrace each other and forgive ourselves for not accepting our beautifully particular place in the fabric of our lives.  

FROM:  Mark Nepo  THE BOOK OF AWAKENING Having The Life You Want By Being Present To The Life You Have

REFLECTION:

  • How much time do you spend comparing yourself to others?
  • Do you try to make others feel small to create an illusion that you are ok?
  • Is there a truth about yourself you can embrace?
  • Is there compassion/forgiveness you can offer yourself?
  • How can you ACCEPT YOU … beautiful warts and all?