Author: Anne

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REAL LIFE…

The real enemies of our life are the ‘oughts’ and the ‘ifs.’  They pull us backward into the unalterable past and forward into the unpredictable future.  But real life takes place in the here and now. 

Quote by Henri Nouwen  Henri Jozef Machiel Nouwen (1932 – 1996) was a Dutch Catholic priest, professor, writer and theologian.  His interests were rooted primarily in psychology, pastoral ministry, spirituality, social justice and community.

REFLECTION:

  • What ‘oughts” and “ifs” do you say… or replay in your inner thoughts?
  • What percentage of the time do you  live in the past?  In the future?
  • How can you “Be Here Now?”
  • What do you need to do to live in this present moment?

WILL YOU TAKE THE BUS?

Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.

Quote by Oprah Winfrey

REFLECTION:

  • Do you have someone in your life who will take the bus with you?
  • If yes, thank them…
  • If no, are you willing to be with you on that bus ride?
  • Have you been tolerating (settling for) only people who want to ride in the limo?  
  • What changes do you need to make?

HARSH FEEDBACK

Harsh Feedback   – It often comes from one of two kinds of people:  People who give themselves feedback in the same heartless tone.  They don’t hesitate to brutally lash out, because that’s the noise they often hear inside.  And folks who honestly believe that their work is flawless.  They can’t understand how anyone else can fail to measure up, because they never seem to.  Of course, each group has a significant (though different) problem.  In fact, now that they’re spreading their harshness with others, they have two problems.  When in doubt, look for the fear.

FROM: Seth Godin’s Daily Blog

REFLECTION:

  • When offering feedback how do you treat others? Are you harsh?  Do you expect perfection?
  • When receiving toxic feedback can you step back and explore if fear is the root cause?
  • How does that alter the feedback?