Author: Anne

In my early professional years I was asking the question:  How can I treat, or cure, or change this person?  Now I would phrase the question this way:  How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?Quote by Carl RogersTo learn more about Carl Rogers:  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carl_RogersREFLECTION:Have you worked at trying to change someone?  How effective were you?Are you still trying to change/cure someone?  (i.e. control them... want it your way... think you have the right way/answers)How can you create space for their personal growth?What's a different question can you ask?

I don't know who needs to hear this, but hyper-independence is a result of trauma.  "I don't need anybody and must do everything myself" really means, "My ability to trust has been injured by people systematically letting me down and failing me."                              You do need people.  We all do. Source:  wordables.  Kate_Kelly_EsqREFLECTION:Do you find yourself saying:  I don't need anyone?  Or, I have to do everything myself?Examine the source of this.  Is it a result of some trauma?  Did someone let you down/fail you?How can you experience a new view, try on a new way of being... Are you willing to receive help from others?  ... Work in collaboration with others?

One can not reflect in streaming water.  Only those who know internal peace can give it to others.Quote by Lao TzuLao TZU was a Chinese philosopher believed to have lived in the 6th century BC.  He is considered the author of the Tao Te Ching. REFLECTION:Ever try to see your face in a running, rushing river?  Pretty hard right?LaoTzu reminds us that we need to slow down... stop to to know peace. Can you take some time today to stop, reflect - even if just for a few minutes to capture some inner peace.What does that feel like? How can you make time for more peace in your life?