Author: Anne

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ANGER

“Anger is a bodyguard for hurt.”  

To be angry is so much more accepted than actually being vulnerable.  When our heart is hurt, struggling to find an acceptable way to express it can be challenging.  For men it is much more acceptable to show anger.  Women are often conditioned not to show the same kind of anger that is ok for men to express.  Such gender conditioning around expressing emotions is deeply ingrained.   

Yet if it is just a coverup for true hurt, how can this shift? 

Quote by Lama Rod Owens – a Buddhist Minister, Black activist and author of Love and Rage: The Path of Liberation through Anger.  And my thoughts… 🙂

REFLECTION:

  • Can you unpack something that is making you very angry?  If you examine it on a deeper level, is it hurt at its core?  Or a fear you have of loss? What is it?
  • How can you tell the truth and be vulnerable to express what is really going on with you?

WINNERS

“Losers live in the past.  Winners learn from the past and enjoy working in the present toward the future.”

Quote by Denis Waitley – Motivational Speaker 87 years old! (AND… a graduate from the U.S. Naval Academy)

REFLECTION:

  • Do you live in the past?
  • What did you learn from the past that you can use in the present?
  • Make a list of past lessons learned and how they can help you now.
  • How can they pull you to the future you want.

TO ACT

Often the difference between a successful person and a failure is not one has better abilities or ideas, but the courage that one has to bet on one’s ideas, to take a calculated risk – and to act.

Quote by Maxwell Maltz

He was an American cosmetic surgeon and author of Psycho-Cybernetics, which was a system of ideas that he claimed could improve one’s self-image. In turn, the person would lead a more successful and fulfilling life. Born 1899 Died 1975

REFLECTION:

  • What ideas have you bet on?
  • What calculated risks have you taken?
  • Is there a calculated risk you need to take going forward?
  • What is it?  What can you do “to act?”