Author: Anne

“People say ‘marriage is hard’ all the time.  But I disagree.  I don’t think marriage is hard.  In fact, if you do it right, marriage is the thing that makes everything else easier.  Now you’re wondering how to do it right – right?  Well, you’re lucky.  Because love is something you can learn.  Love is something you can practice.  It’s something you can choose to get good at.  And here’s how you do it.  Appreciate your person.  That’s it.  “Well — first, be sure to choose a good person.  But we’re all good people here.  Choose a good, imperfect person who leaves the cap off the toothpaste, and puts the toilet paper upside down, and loads the dishwasher like a ferret on steroids — and then appreciate the hell out of that person.  Train yourself to see their best, most delightful, most charming qualities.  Focus on everything they’re doing right.  Be grateful – all the time – and laugh the rest off.  And that goes for kids too, by the way – and pets, and waiters, and even our own selves.There it is.  The whole trick to life.  Be aggressively, loudly, unapologetically grateful.”