We have been trained to think that being particular about what we want is indicative of good taste, and that not being satisfied unless our preferences are met is a sign of worldliness and sophistication. It can be seen as having high standards, when in actuality it is only a means of isolating ourselves from being touched by life, while rationalizing that we are more special than those who can’t meet our very demanding standards.
Accepting life as it is doesn’t mean denying its difficulties and disappointments. It means that joy can be found even in hardship, not by demanding that we be treated special, but that we treat everything that comes our way as special.
FROM: THE BOOK OF AWAKENING Having the Life You Want by Being Present To The Life You Have by Mark Nepo
REFLECTION:
Think about a time you were demanding beyond just taking care of your basic needs. What were you really needing?
Is there a hardship you are facing now that you can view a different way … with joy? If not with joy, can you pause to take an honest assessment of what you really want/need.
Do something today to ensure a ‘fill up” for you so you don’t resort to demanding and isolating actions.