The reflex to solve, rescue, and fix removes us from the tenderness at hand. For often, intimacy arises not from any attempt to take the pain away, but from a living through together; not from a working out, but from a being with. Trust and closeness deepen from holding and being held, both emotionally and physically.
Quote by Mark Nepo from his BOOK OF AWAKENING Having the Life You Want By Being Present to the Life You Have
REFLECTION:
- Do you attempt to solve, rescue or fix?
- How often do you allow yourself to just “be with” someone?
- Do you allow others to hold you, emotionally and or physically when struggling?
- Do you hold another either physically or emotionally when they are struggling?
- Try “being with” someone today… no rescuing, solving or fixing!