Conflict is inevitable in relationships – especially with those closest to us. Often there is some ‘story’ or conclusion reached that the other is not even aware of.
To improve your relationships try this…
The story that I am making up in my head is_______. And, when I believe that thought, I feel ______.
Example: When you stay in your office until 7:30, the story I make up in my head is you don’t want to be with me. And when I believe that thought, I feel like I don’t matter to you. I feel unloved and then I withdraw to myself creating another brick in the wall.
Tool attributed to Brene Brown. She is the author of DARING GREATLY and a leading voice on the topic of shame and vulnerability.
REFLECTION:
- Just try it!
- Let me know how it works for you.