THE DAILY SPARK

THE PATH

Your decision to keep on the path or to leave it must be free of fear or ambition. Look at every path closely and deliberately. Try it as many times as you think necessary.

Does this path have a heart? If it does, the path is good; if it doesn’t, it is of no use. Both paths lead nowhere; but one has a heart, the other doesn’t. One makes for a joyful journey; as long as you follow it, you are one with it. The other will make you curse your life. One makes you strong; the other weakens you.

Quote by Carlos Castaneda from The Teaching of Don Juan

To learn more about Carlos Castaneda:  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carlos_Castaneda

REFLECTION:

  • Seeing your life as a path, are you on a joyful journey or one that makes you curse your life?
  • Looking closely at your path, does it have heart?
  • How can you traverse the path with heart more deliberately?

USE TO GROW

In my early professional years I was asking the question:  How can I treat, or cure, or change this person?  Now I would phrase the question this way:  How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?

Quote by Carl Rogers

To learn more about Carl Rogers:  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carl_Rogers

REFLECTION:

  • Have you worked at trying to change someone?  How effective were you?
  • Are you still trying to change/cure someone?  (i.e. control them… want it your way… think you have the right way/answers)
  • How can you create space for their personal growth?
  • What’s a different question can you ask?

WE ALL DO!

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but hyper-independence is a result of trauma.  “I don’t need anybody and must do everything myself” really means, “My ability to trust has been injured by people systematically letting me down and failing me.” 

                            You do need people.  We all do.

 

Source:  wordables.  Kate_Kelly_Esq

REFLECTION:

  • Do you find yourself saying:  I don’t need anyone?  Or, I have to do everything myself?
  • Examine the source of this.  Is it a result of some trauma?  Did someone let you down/fail you?
  • How can you experience a new view, try on a new way of being… Are you willing to receive help from others?  … Work in collaboration with others?