The DAILY SPARK Blog

What if the purpose of a crisis (health challenge, job loss, divorce, some disaster, etc.) is not to break us but to break us open.  Perhaps to help us grow... to evolve?My ponderings...REFLECTION:What "crisis" have you had that still haunts you?What is something that you previously viewed as a negative event/failure but now see as a necessary part of your journey?Is there some form of crisis you are currently experiencing that you can see differently? How is it helping you grow?Write about it.

Your decision to keep on the path or to leave it must be free of fear or ambition. Look at every path closely and deliberately. Try it as many times as you think necessary.Does this path have a heart? If it does, the path is good; if it doesn’t, it is of no use. Both paths lead nowhere; but one has a heart, the other doesn’t. One makes for a joyful journey; as long as you follow it, you are one with it. The other will make you curse your life. One makes you strong; the other weakens you.Quote by Carlos Castaneda from The Teaching of Don JuanTo learn more about Carlos Castaneda:  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carlos_CastanedaREFLECTION:Seeing your life as a path, are you on a joyful journey or one that makes you curse your life?Looking closely at your path, does it have heart?How can you traverse the path with heart more deliberately?

In my early professional years I was asking the question:  How can I treat, or cure, or change this person?  Now I would phrase the question this way:  How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?Quote by Carl RogersTo learn more about Carl Rogers:  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carl_RogersREFLECTION:Have you worked at trying to change someone?  How effective were you?Are you still trying to change/cure someone?  (i.e. control them... want it your way... think you have the right way/answers)How can you create space for their personal growth?What's a different question can you ask?