The DAILY SPARK Blog

LETTING LOVE IN

“Nursing a grievance – treating our intimate partner, as someone to get back at, or resenting how badly life or other people have treated us – is a self destructive act. For in wanting to hurt or reject someone or something we resent, we unwittingly wind up hurting or rejecting ourselves at the same time…The mood of grievance shuts down the channel through which love could enter into us, cutting us off from its healing and regenerative power… It is often hard to let ourselves receive love even when it is available. To let love in requires us to melt.”

Quote by John Welwood from his book:  “Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships”

REFLECTION:

  • When you are hurt or rejected, how do you react?
  • For many people being vulnerable is so difficult.  Our ego doesn’t want us to let our guard down. In an effort to protect ourselves, we can cut off the power of love and healing. 
  • Yet, love requires us to melt!  What does that look like for you?

LEVERAGE

It’s almost impossible to remove a screw with your bare hands, but easy with a screwdriver.  The handle might only add a little torque, but it’s more than enough.  If someone is succeeding at something you find difficult, it might be because they realized they needed a screwdriver.

Looking for the tool is the first step in finding it. 

Seth Godin’s Daily Blog:  https://seths.blog/

REFLECTION:

  • Is there something you are struggling with that could be made easier with a “screwdriver?”
  • What tool do you need?
  • Take the first step of finding the right tool.

SHOW UP

As you get older, it’s not about showing off.  It’s about showing up!

Quote by Chip Conley  from a podcast with Rich Roll:  Midlife is a Chrysalis, Not a Crisis – Chip Conley On Why Life Gets Better With Age

REFLECTION:

A quote I loved that struck a chord with me…

  • How are you showing up?