Self-importance is our greatest enemy. Think about it- what weakens us is feeling offended by the deeds and misdeeds of our fellowmen. Our self-importance requires that we spend most of our lives offended by someone.
FROM: Carlos Castañeda’s book The Fire From Within
Carlos Castañeda was a Peruvian-American author. Starting with The Teachings of Don Juan in 1968, Castaneda wrote a series of books that purport to describe training in shamanism that he received under the tutelage of a supposed Yaqui “Man of Knowledge” named don Juan Matus. He wrote a total of 15 books. His works helped define the 1960’s and usher in the New Age movement.
REFLECTION:
How self-important do you think you are?
Are there deeds/misdeeds of others that you are offended by right now?
Examine you self-importance in relation to feeling offended by someone. What shift you can make?
Change comes about when the story the other person tells themselves begins to change. If all you do is make a point, you’ve handed them a story about yourself. When you make a change, you’ve helps them embrace a new story about themselves. And even though it’s more fun (and feels safe, in some way) to make a point, if we really care, we’ll do the hard work to make a difference instead.
FROM: Seth Godin’s Daily Blog titled Making a difference (making a point).
REFLECTION:
When speaking with someone, do you try to make a point or make a difference?
What story are you telling yourself?
What story are you telling others?
How can you embrace a new story about yourself or another you are in relationship with?