ELUSIVE CONTROL

It’s negative when we say someone is out of control.  They’ve lost their self-restraint, and they’re doing things that they’ll regret later.  And it’s honest when we acknowledge that just about everything is out of our control.  We can work to influence it, we can practice accepting it, but any time we’re engaging with others or with the future, we’re not completely in charge.  Control is elusive.  If we accept the parts that are out of our hands, we can focus on the elements where we have leverage and influence instead. 

Seth Godin’s Daily Blog – Out Of Control

REFLECTION:

  • Where in your life do you feel “out of control?”
  • Where can you shift your focus?
  • Where do you have leverage and influence – start there.

CLEAR THE AIR

A truth unsaid can still be felt.  What needs to be discussed, but hasn’t been said yet?  Clear the air.

Ideas from James Clear and his 3-2-1 Thursday blog

REFLECTION:

  • Is there a conversation that needs to be had?
  • What hasn’t been said?
  • Muster the courage and have a courageous conversation.  Clear the air!

WALLOW or MOVE ON

“We all make mistakes. We all do things, say things, that we wish we had not.

Everybody know this.  Yet, virtually everyone dwells on the consequences of their mistakes, completely robbing themselves of peace.

You can hold on to the memories of your mistakes and wallow in them.

Or you can see what you mistakenly did and said and move on. One path leads to peace; the other does not.”

Forgive yourself or ask for forgiveness.

FROM:  ABOUT PEACE by Scott Shaw

REFLECTION:

  • Today is a new day!  Are past actions or words robbing you of peace?
  • What do you need to do to move on?  Forgive self or others?
  • Take a step today… don’t wallow in negative memories and pain.